Learning The Secrets About Resources

Taking Care of a Loved One Who is Terminal Ill

Receiving a news that someone you love has a terminal illness is really life-changing, and many families are really struggling with everyday challenges along with caregiving and spending life at its fullest potential. A lot of people are confused and overwhelmed in dealing with the matter especially when it comes to the right reaction, how to provide comfort, and support. It is time to face reality and know what is the best thing you need to do to help your loved one deal with this stage in his life. Your loved one would want to spend his life with something meaningful and memorable such as watching the sunset, going to the beach, or meeting with friends.

Even if your loved one’s illness is considered terminal, he can still have a quality of life by doing some research about the nature and management of his illness to help him go through the signs and symptoms, and how to somehow relieve them. Utilize the Internet and just type in the name of the illness you are looking for such as peritoneal mesothelioma, congenital heart defect, or cancer. Let your loved one know that you are there to provide not only his medical needs but also listen to his concerns. Allow time for your loved one to pour his emotions and thoughts, and don’t force acceptance because there is no right or wrong when it comes to death. Denial is a coping mechanism for people with terminal illness because the reality of knowing you will soon die is really frightening and overwhelming, and denial blocks or protects a person from this reality to prevent being out of control. People who have terminal illness fear pain, financial hardship, losing autonomy and bodily functions, becoming a burden to the family, and death.

You can emotionally and spiritually support your loved one by talking about his fears, and seeking professional help from a psychologist, psychiatrist, or spiritual counselor. If your loved one opens the topic about life and death, don’t divert the topic but allow expression, affirming him that his life is worth it and he will be remembered. If possible, you can consider recording your conversation as a way to honor your loved one. Your loved one will surely open up the topic about dying, and make sure to note his wishes because some people who want to die with their loved ones nearby, while there are those who prefer going privately.